Relationships

Now no one said these lil nightmares would be very easy to deal with, honestly they are probably the hardest things we'll ever have to do in all our lives. Some may ask is there ever a way to fully prepare yourself for a relationship? my best answer, hell no! You can't study for a relationship and no matter how well you think you may know your significant other they will always find some way or the other to surprise you. Now in all fairness, we are all different and to be able to even try and attempt to be with someone, you have to first know how to survive by yourself; learn how to rely solely on yourself and learn to love yourself unconditionally before you can say you love someone else. If you cant love yourself yourself first, your relationship will suffer greatly. Also, never jump from one relationship to the next... That is one lesson I had to learn the hard way. You see when you do that, you then enter into that new relationship with all the problems you had carrying from the previous one and before you know it, you're taking out all your problems on this poor soul that did you no wrong, in fact all they tried to do was love you and make you happy.... but the hurt that you've been bottling up, well it kinda blinds you and you start to react negatively because you're confused by all that you are feeling. Your emotions have a funny way of bringing you to places you never thought possible and that can be scary. I've always though that everyone else was the problem, they just didn't understand me but after a while I've come to the realization that I was my own worst enemy, the only one standing in the way of my own happiness all because of pains from the past that hadn't let go of and because of that all my relationships suffered because all my barriers go up instantly, trying to keep me safe from getting hurt again... And though it does work, it always helps in keeping everyone else out. So you see, there are many factors that could prevent you from having that fairy-tale relationship that we've all grown up dreaming about... Go through detox, take a time out from relationships to fully reconnect with yourself, trust me when i say, you'll be surprised at how much you come to learn about yourself and I guarantee when you finally heal, the next relationship that you find yourself will be a solid 98% perfection.... No one is perfect after all :)